6 tips for the initial period of separation

Have you recently separated from your partner and are finding it difficult to make sense of the world? 

You may feel overwhelmed and unsure of your next steps, but that’s perfectly normal. We wrote this article to let you know that you are not on your own and that we are here to help.

In this situation, your mind often races to the bigger picture. Where will I live? What will happen with the children? How do I divide up money and belongings we share? When it comes to questions such as these, our Family Law experts can provide you with peace of mind, great advice, and a free initial consultation.

If you find yourself in this position now, here are some practical, initial tips to consider. We will then help you look at the bigger picture in your free initial face-to-face meeting.

1. If the home is jointly owned – do not change the locks. Doing this, would mean your partner would be entitled to take legal action against you. If you are concerned for your safety, you should contact the Police or seek legal advice.
2. Ensure that your joint bank accounts are monitored. The bank will hold you both responsible, so consider whether the accounts need to be closed, frozen or transferred.
3. If you do have children, a good first step would be to contact their schools so that they are aware of any potential upset or behavioral changes in the children and can support them if required.
4. Avoid social media and making negative comments during contact with your ex-partner. It is very easy to get caught up in the emotion and post or send something you may regret later.
5. If you pay council tax or receive any form of benefits, you should inform the council and/or office that deals with your benefits as the amount you pay/receive may change. (Note that most benefits have a 30-day deadline.)
6. Remember that your children love you both and shouldn’t be used as weapons.

With offices in Chippenham, Devizes, Marlborough, Royal Wootton Bassett and Swindon, we are here for you. Click here to arrange your initial consultation with one of our friendly, supportive family lawyers.